If there is anyone to whom we must be kind and compassionate towards it is to ourselves first and foremost. Without that we are relentlessly cruel and judgemental towards our own being and that unkindness spills out in our treatment of others. That is why it isn’t surprising when someone who is highly judgemental of others are often just as judgemental or more towards themselves. Be kind to yourself and learn how to laugh at your own quirks. For your duration on this earth your stuck with You so you might as well learn how to get along.